Today, we are asked to examine ourselves and our five closest relations to see how and if our personalities are/were affected. Also, we have to see if indeed there is any aspect of our identity that is original. Or can be deemed original. Below, I’ve included the quote that I’ll be basing the majority of my post on.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
Back home, my five closest relations were my mom, dad, brother, Marge, and V. Names have been changed for their privacy, and because I’ve always wanted to say that I gave somebody a code name. Moving on… First off, while I resemble my mom, I act eerily like my dad. We both share a sarcastic, dry sense of humor, have expressive faces, and big mouths (not to mention sharp tongues). This may seem all negative, but really it isn’t. We don’t even need words to communicate, all we have to do is look at each other and then Mom yells at us both. But it is totally worth it, I mean, yeah, no. It’s totally worth it. (sorry mom). Now my mom and I are alike in the fact that we tend to keep to the outskirts of social gatherings; wallflowers if you will. I love to people-watch, which really came about as a way for me to cope with being in large crowds, and thus do better in smaller social settings. Also like my mom, I normally am not too forgetful, in the fact that if someone offends me or mine, they probably need to stay away from me after that point. I can forgive, but I don’t forget, is what I am trying to get at.
Last in the family influences, is my little brother. He tends to help me curb my mouth, and helps me to see how not all people are I perceive them to be. He can also be impish, and I think he is developing a little bit of a sarcasm edge, which I couldn’t be happier about! My other two friends, Marge and V, are outgoing and loud which leaked into my personality at times. So, overall, I’m a quiet, sarcastic, outgoing (to an extent), easy-going person.
But here, I really only have two, maybe three, people who I am in close relations with: my roomie Snow White, and my shooting girls: HW and Iowa. (I am part of the college shotgun sports club.) Overall, I don’t think my roomie is adding to my personality – we seem to be of equal temperament. However, I know that HW and Iowa are subtly – or more accurately not-so-subtly – rearranging my personality. When I am around them, my tongue gets a bit looser and my sarcasm is flowing freely. They aren’t afraid to say what they are thinking and I admire that. Also, when we shoot, I can literally see Iowa’s confidence/ego come into place when she steps into her zone. It is pretty cool to watch. Although I feel like almost everyone in the club has their shooting personality and then their normal personality. Just casual observation…
And to address the last question in today’s prompt: is there anything original in our personalities? I say no. From birth we are shaped by our parents personalities and behaviors. Children are more perceptive than adults, and thus take in many more personality traits. Examples: daycare and changing child behavior. I’ve heard more mothers complain about this than I think anyone ever should. All our lives, we try to find ourselves, within all our absorbed character traits and with what society is telling us we need to act like. But the truth is that, we have to create ourselves out of all our experiences, personality traits, thoughts, beliefs, and actions. So, again, we are not original material. We are simply a recreation, a phoenix of a person, who may or may not have lived before us. And on that note, I leave you. Until next week, ~V







